January Already???

okay tax problem!

My mom HAS to claim me as a dependent on her taxes b/c she claimed me in 07, and never changed her status (DH and I didn't get engaged til like Feb of 08), so if DH claims me as a dependent, my mom is out of A LOT of money, and she will have to pay in a whole lot! But if I say (on turbotax) that a parent or someone else can claim me as a dependent, Cory can't claim Joey! I don't know if it has to do with the mother, or one of the spouses being claimed by a parent, but it really kills our tax returns. So, I guess I need to go with the lesser of two evils, which is, forget about joey being filed as a dependent altogether, b/c we lose out on like $650, but then my mom isn't in deep shit with the IRS. That really sux tho, having $650 that close, and not being able to have it b/c of some stupid dependency crap... ANGRY FACE!!!!

Bekah-not to be rude but why are you helping your mom, i mean you are on your own and you ahd the baby. my mother is well less then desirable so she tries to pull stuff on me all teh time. just a htought please don't take me wrong trying to but in jsut in my life I ahve had to say i need to worry abotu me and not everyone else.

Well A bit of an update from yesterday's post about the fever issues. It seems as though the older twos fevers broke the other night so my hubby was gonna attempt to take ODS to school but he gets there and they mention something about his eye being red we thought it was maybe reactions of the fever or maybe because he was sleeping constantly during the time he had the fever.. anyways they seen his eyes red and said before they could allow him to go to school they needed a dr note stating nothing was wrong. So had to take him to dr come to find out although fever is gone he has eye infection in both eyes and has bronchitis... I blame the eye infection cause on him not always washing his hands after using restroom although I tell him on it when I catch him not washing not always can I catch him and I think maybe he got a germ on his hands that way and transferred it to his eye.. or he got it at school.. but the bronchitis not sure how he got it other than school also... so during the time Dh took Elijah to dr I was with Jeremiah at home checked his temp and it was 101.4 So I give him more tylenol and put a fan on him....so fast forward ahead to afternoon time.. so hubby gets back informs me ODS cannot go to school till monday.. and finding out what he had on top of Jeremiah having a fever I take Faith and Jeremiah to dr then... and lo and behold they too have bronchitis also, Jeremiahs is worse of the two.. and when they checked his temp it was completely normal 98.2 and that's after sitting in his carseat with a lightweight sleeper on with the comfycover over carseat except where his head was I left that flap open in the dr office waiting room. I did not mess with him to uncover or nothing because he was sleeping when we got there.So I was a bit shocked at his drop on temp esp when here at home he was just in a diaper all night with a fan on him and was yet running a fever. So they gave me Bactrim for Elijah and some eye drops and for Faith and Jeremiah they gave me amoxicillin and a nebulizer with albuterol vials. So they are both on those now.. Such madness... and for the record Jeremiah is 15lb 13 oz not sure what happened to the 17 lbs since my scale is digital but anywho. not sure of length or anything as they did not check it. Will find that out on the 9th when I go for check up for him.
And to top everything of my Dh is being a butt..... I totally hate how he doesnt try to help me much and the little he does such as take ODS to school and maybe do a few dishes every couple weeks he makes sure to remind me of.. Like for instance today.. All fine and dandy he took ODS to dr but other than that thats all he did. I had to contend with the other two by myself. while he was here on the net playing games. I then get home with them and leave to go up town to fill their scripts rather than try and take em to the pharmacy and he asks in a roundabout way basically how come I didnt do it before I came home. So I explained why because I didnt want chaos in there while I had to wait for it to be filled etc etc. So then I get back and have to do dishes and he is out there mauling me wanting to get some.. and I'm thinkin in my head um no I have things to do since you aint gonna do them. So finally get dishes done make dinner he asks me to make his plate so without hesitation I do and I get ready to get mine and go sit down and he says you may want to get Jeremiah a bottle I think he is hungry.. mind you almost half his food on his plate is gone and I have not even had a chance to take a bite of mine.. So get the bottle then he hands me Jeremiah and sits back down to "slowly" finish his other two tacos.. meanwhile I am holding a baby holding a bottle and trying to get a bite here and there... and he's still slowly eating his.. finally he finishes his gets up goes gets a soda sits back down enjoys tv and soda gets back up and heads for bed meanwhile I'm still holding baby feedin him and trying to eat all at once. And I was pretty upset and told him so also while he was in bed trying to go to sleep I went in there hollering at him and mentioned how ignorant it was of him to do like he did then I go to kitchen only to discover on top of cleaning the dishes and making the dinner and making his plate, he returned the favor by leaving leftovers out on stove in addition to his lack of help with the baby .so I then confronted again even more upset and he said I did help I took care of my plate... I almost blew a gasket.. how in the heck is that any help. I ended up with cold food that I just gave up on and threw out from my plate. He makes me so LIVID.. then he comments how I stay up late on comp(mind you I am up with a baby that decides he is not gonna sleep)..I don't like getting hardly any sleep but with little help hard to get normal sleep. Basically he just has picked up slack by taking ODS to school since like Dec. But mind you when he began doing that he began going to bed way earlier even on days there is no school...something of which I didn't nor do I now get to indulge on(an early bed time). And when kids are sick like recently with fevers and such I am the one up all night with them.... And the icing on the cake he doesn't work still looking for work.. So I could totally see if he was working not to expect alot of help but I figure no Job he should be able to help me out and pick up some slack for me but no not at all. Even after seeing the Movie Fireproof and saying he learned some useful things I'd like to know where... Which may I add and tell you all that Fireproof is an AWESOME movie. I watched it twice within to nights and still was interested. Whew I think my vent is over I skipped all over with it and can't remember even what I said thus far but I feel a little better after saying it. I just do not get it what is his deal. I see other peoples hubbies (his two sisters mainly) and how they help their wives out with kids and such even on top of working lots of hours and have such a respect for their wife and what they do and yet I gotta pull teeth and get nowhere with mine. And he wonders why I have no desire to DTD. Gosh why would I I mean really.He likes to bring that up too how other couples are dtd deed way more than us and that there has to be something wrong with my sex drive because I do not feel like it much. Well when everything is left to me to do doesnt leave me with much energy or even the desire to want to be with him..KWIM? He thinks I am way wrong about that and that other women to it all the time regardless but I dont think thats true at all. I mean the way I feel with everything I can hardly imagine a women going through stuff like I do and being talked to like I am sometimes and still wanting to DTD with a hubby that acts like mine.. uuuggghh.. ok I began another vent but truly I think that is all for now... geesh if no one elses posts between today and tomorrow I am sure I have made up the difference Its just he makes me irate sometimes... I ll be glad when he finds work that way at least I can feel a little bit better knowing that even though he doesnt help me at least he is making money not sitting at home giving me headaches and not helping out. Alright vent done for real now..... Sorry so huge but I had alot buggin me...

Although I should have put this in the vent section....ah well its already here may as well leave it.


AFM: I am so glad I copy everything before I click send now or else I would have the forum auto log out on my vent list also since it logged me out while I was writing this beast of a post so I had to sign back in to post it... alright enough vent before it logs me out again lol

Bekah - Did your mom provide over half of your support thru 2008 or did Corey? Your mom not changing her exceptions has nothing to do with wether or not she is to claim you...you can claim how many ever exemptions you want on your w-2 it's only when you file your taxes does it matter. If your mom is going to claim you then you and Corey need to file seperately so he can claim Joey...it's a lot more than $650 that he will get back. There are child tax credits, EIC, plus just the dependant exemption alone will give him money. It's not fair to Corey IMO to let his money go to the IRS when he has worked and supported his son since he was born to save your mom some cash. I know that sounds harsh, but you are married and you have a child....your family has to come first. I am a firm believer in extended family and once you get married mom, brothers, sisters, dads all become extended family. Anyway, it's taxes. You can't just shuffle exemptions around. JMO you can take from it what you like....just trying to help! ;-)

Bekah- Sorry I don't know too much about the tax stuff.I did my own before I got married then DH does them. I hope that you get to have the money though!

Joy- No offense and please don't take it the wrong way but your DH needs to grow up and take responsibility for the kids that he helped make. Next time he tells you to go make a bottle, tell him to do it. I don't blame you one bit for not being interested in sex since you do EVERYTHING in your house. He's not working so he can help more.Or is he one of those men that think that everything involving the house and kids is a woman's job? I hope not because I hate those kind of men. Sorry again please dont take that the wrong way.A bit irritated at the moment(not about your vent lol). Lucas too is on albuterol nebulizer treatments, just a warning to you. They make the babies REALY REALLY wired and crazy!!! Lucas kicks and punches and laughs and sounds like he's been jogging after a treatment. Hope your kiddos feel better!

AFM: Ever have one of those days where everyone sucks and everything around you does as well and things are never going to be better?Ok well I'm having one of those days! AAArrgghhh!!!!

Shannon - yup and i too have been lots lots of those days lately!

well the thin is, my mom is actually REALLY nice. I know some peoples' moms are not so pleasant, but she pays for our gas, allows us to live in her house rent free, and not paying the utilities. She also still provides me with a mobile phone and insurance on my truck so we aren't out a whole crap load of money every month. She is trying to help us get on our feet, and I am really thankful for that. My mom claimed me( in 2008) on her w2 as a dependent(which she is changing this year) my husband and I lived with her all year and she has helped a lot with EVERYTHING. The only thing WE pay for is groceries, DH's phone bill(it's a basic plan), DH's car payments, car insurance for DH, and school stuff. anyway, my mom is being super awesome and allowing us to go to H&R Block and have THEM do our taxes, since it's so complicated this year. Next year, it won't be so bad. It's just SUCH a pain! Anyway, thanks for all the advice and stuff. I appreciate it, even tho we are going to get "people" lol anyways, talk to you girls later.

P.S. does anyone else notice that their baby is a morning or night time baby? Like in the morning they can play by themselves and be perfectly content on their playmat or in their crib, for at least an hour or so without fussing? Joey has been really good in the mornings to just kind of hang out on his play mat or in his crib, just squirming and rolling around and talking to the tigers on his bumper lol anyways, just wondering. ttyl

Bekah- Her is my biggest question, how can your mom still claim you? Cause if you are over 18, and the IRS knows your age through your SSN which is filed with the returns she can't claim you unless you are disabled or in college full time? And I agree with Michelle, just because on her W4 she claimed 2 or how ever many as a dependent so they were taking money out based on that does not mean that is how many she has to file on tax return, honestly I almost think it is illegal for her to claim you as you are married...if she were to get audited I think she would be screwed. But I claim 0 every year for my pay checks which basically means they tax the maximum amount of taxes out of my pay check every year which means we get a bigger return and when we file we claim 4, all of us. I honestly don't think what she is doing is right...and I am still trying to figure out how she can claim you when you are an adult and not a minor.

Joy, that DH of yours might need a swift kick in the nuts! Every once in awhile I think all men need it! Never will I understand how taking care of a child is suppose to fall completely on the mom. My DH does do alot around the house and with both of our kiddos but lately he has expected me to say thank you. I'm like "thank you???" What the hell am I "thanking" you for.....taking care of your own house or your own children? I got so mad one day I told him you better tell your son to tell you thank you....it was his diaper you changed NOT MINE! Granted we have gotten past our area of life changing difficulty, but the little things are no less annoying than the big ones IMO. Sounds to me like ya'll are gonna have to have a heart to heart and if he chooses not to listen or participate it's time to not only stop making his plate but stop making his freakin' dinner! Honestly, I have no real advice all I can say is men want to be taken care of like children but treated like The Boss.

Bekah! I'm a Tax Specialist and you can claim your baby for Earned Income Credit, If they are born that year you put down that they lived with you for all 12 month!!! Also I don't believe you can file jointly if your mom is claiming you as a dependant, Not sure though, I'd have to look it up! Sorry I just had to tell you that!!! I want you to beable to get as much back as you can! If you have questions e mail me at tera.scadden@tax.hrblock.com or tscadden@gmail.com

Morning,
Sorry no personals.... my sick baby shift started at 3am, DH took early shift last night and now both of us are up.
Aubrey started running a fever yesterday afternoon. I guess she just has a cold. We called the exchange and they have us just doing Tylenol and making sure she eats until dr office opens. She's had that congestion for 2 weeks now and she's been fine and just out of the blue she has fever and she's uncomfortable, irritable.
I'm supposed to go back to the office tomorrow...if DH can't stay home from his side job with her I may have to tell my boss I'm not coming back yet. I know she will be with her G'ma but I just can't stand the thought of leaving her all day without either myself or DH.

Have a good day ladies...hope u had a fun Superbowl!

Diana- I hope Aubrey feels better soon! Working in shifts makes such a difference!

AFM - last night was hilarious! Brenden watched the superbowl with his dad! Sat right there in the recliner with him and screamed bloody murder when I took him for his bath....I wasn't messing up that routine for NOTHING! What a character! Dawson had a friend over and we had all kinds of food. I made a low country shrimp boil and had to give Brenden a bib to suck on since he was livid everyone else was eating except him. I couldn't feed him at the same time I was eating because my hands were all messy with cajun seasoning. Anyway, he slept really good last night only getting up at 1am and 5am for feedings then up at 7:30 for the day! Hope everyone has a good Monday!

STOP!!Now that I have your attention, I just wanted to let you guys know I started February's thread! Happy Monday ladies!